I wish we had discovered this podcast sooner. It could have saved our marriage from so much damage and pain. Better late than never, and grateful to have hope for recovery, healing, and restoration of our marriage. Update… coming up on two years of doing this work together with my husband. We are both different people and better as well. We have a new marriage 🤍 So glad we found this resource when we did.

Thanks for taking the time and effort to address these important topics, and help remind us all to stay true and endure on our journey to God!

My sex offender ex husband uses this group and podcast to fake recovery while he continues to exploit vulnerable women and possibly even children. “Addiction” model groups like this encourage cycles of abuse and sexual coercion. Try Betrayal Trauma Recovery instead. They use an abuse model that makes way more sense. Because it is abuse. If you’re married to a sex addict…leave. Immediately. They don’t get “better” they just learn how to lie better.

I have been blessed to have watched the Conquer Series back in college with a small group leader. That same leader walked with me and other men with Pure Desire’s “7 Pillars of Freedom” curriculum. This helped me find tremendous freedom from my pornography addiction before getting married, as well as address the root problems that fueled my addiction. I enjoyed Episode 396 with Dr. Jake Porter. I’m finding out more recently about my own struggles of secure attachment and the need for repair after rupture. I’m grateful to have this episode so that, LORD willing, when my wife and I have kids, we can model the Gospel of reconciliation, forgiveness, and humility. Thank you also for providing the Parent Training Curriculum; looking forward to using that!

My husband and I have been married for 22 years. My husband has over a year of sobriety. Something I felt over all our years would never happen. I have over a year of healing and restoration. Because we had some knowledge of pornography addiction from every man’s battle and the book clean through out the years we did have a small amount of ground work. As we learned with addictions they eventually everything comes to a disastrous end where all comes into the light. June 29, 2023 was the worst day of my life but yet today I can also say it was the best day of my life! We found pure desires ministry through a CSAT that we where on a waiting list for. He recommend them. I am so blessed and happy to say even though it’s not been easy and things can still be raw after a year, we are still working through many things, this ministry, the materials, the groups, the pod casts and the things they have gotten from God has changed both of our lives. Our kids lives. Yes addiction effects so much. Betrayal and beyond went beyond what I was Thier for, pillars groups and the podcast has become a integrated part of our every day life using the tools and rebuilding something beautiful. I want to say THANKYOU to all those that are a part of this ministry because God used you to save another marriage, my husbands not the man I knew even a year ago, and I’m not the same either. God bless pure desires and those affiliated with them.

I am caught up, started last year when I started my seven pillars journey. My wife is now in betrayal an beyond and we look forward to giving back. After listening for 300+ episodes I am kind of at a loss with the new intro music. 😂. I will be able to accept this change with God’s help. Great job guys.

After finding out my husband had been hiding a porn addiction from me for most of our marriage, I had tons of books recommended to me by friends, all of which were primarily geared towards the recovering porn user. Though helpful in understanding my husband’s struggle, those resources provided little encouragement to me as a wife. I am incredibly grateful for the thoughtful way Trevor, Nick and their guests speak about the betrayal trauma side of things. It has been hugely helpful for me as I process everything. My husband has deconstructed his faith, but I thoroughly enjoy listening to so much of what these men have to say, and it encourages me that God really can redeem anything, and hope is not lost for my husband. Thank you so much for talking openly about things the church has often avoided addressing!

Everything happening on this pod is awesome. One thing that has to be discussed and focus on is Nick’s point of view during the pods. What I mean is he often has amazing insights and a pastoral/authoritative tone, which serves the audience well. But he misses, almost every episode, the important moments he could use “I” and “me” language instead of “we” and “us”. In recovery groups, especially in PD groups like I’ve been leading for >4yrs, that sort of posture/tone is generally suspicious. Maybe it’s an auto-pilot thing or maybe it’s on purpose, but occasionally the asymmetry of the guests vulnerability to Nicks is significant.

This podcast serves as huge part of our healing since betrayal. I love it so much! Thank you for your faithfulness to help people hurting from sexual betrayal

In sickness and health was one of the open and frank discussions I’ve heard about those struggling in the bedroom with health related issues and provided practical applications ideas to help resolve them. Glad I listened to this one.

I am thankful for the time and thoughtful effort that is put into each podcast. The information I am learning has helped me have a better understanding of my self and my relationship to my wife.

Trevor, Nick, and the gang are incredible. Silence in the church is a tool of the enemy and I am happy that they are talking about all of these issues. Every episode has guided me and helped me in my journey through conquer and 7 pillars. I am now a group leader and can share episode numbers that match the curriculum for the week. Great job PD. Love you all and I love hangin with you all through my day.

This podcast is incredibly helpful. Really thankful for it. As a stylistic point, I really wish they would reduce the intro time. WAY too long. Too much banter; just get to the guest and/or content. No reason for intros to be 5 minutes.

A friend of mine recommended me this podcast, and I can say with total confidence that it’s one of the biggest reasons I’m so hopeful in my journey of healing today. I’ve been needing something so grounded in scripture but also aware that there’s an a physical side to my problems as well. And the Pure Desire Podcast was an answer to prayer!

Ted Roberts and his Seven Pillars have been life changing. Pure Desire Ministries has loved out that work and is the road to health. Thank you guys so very much.

I know not everyone will connect with every episode… but after listening to enough… you will see and hear both sides. Have Grace and Mercy for everyone, and do not forget we all are flawed. Trevor and Nick are going way out on a limb here being vulnerable publicly. Listen for the healing power, listen for HOW this can apply to me and make me better even if it is the opposite perspective, and know they can’t put enough in one talk to cover all viewpoints in an hour. Amazing and inspiring and you can learn a-lot from this podcast if you listen to them all.

Love the continued content driving sobriety, growth and development so we can be better for our family, friends and ourselves! Practical information.

Nick, Trevor, and the entire team do a great job of presenting helpful and Biblically based tools and strategies which I have found extremely useful in my recovery from sexual addiction. They do no shy away from tough topics, and the blend of Biblical truth, brain science, and clinical experience is solid. So … stop reading this review, and go listen to the Pure Desire podcast!

Thank you PD for helping to cover such a huge need in our world and in the church. This podcast is insightful, practical, hopeful and challenging for the strugglers and the betrayed partners.

This is probably one of the best podcasts I’ve come across for dealing with sexual brokenness. I’ve been through (and in many ways am still going through) addiction and sexual brokenness and Pure Desires has consistently been one of the best resources I’ve found. Through my healing and the ups and downs of recovery, God has allowed me to be a part of walking with other men through this journey and the PD podcast is my first recommendation for anyone struggling with understanding and healing from sexual addiction from a Gospel perspective. The balance between Biblical, physiological, and the psychological nature of addiction is incredibly healthy and helpful. Keep up the great work Nick and Trevor- you guys are a blessing to many.

If you have struggled with or been betrayed by sexual sin, here is help and hope. Practical, personal, powerful.

I spent years struggling alone and actively looking for help, but it was very difficult to find anyone who actually had experience. After not watching porn for a year I got the shakes one night trying to fight temptation and felt like a drug addict. I thought to myself, maybe this is an addiction? That was at age 19 after struggle for 6 years. I went too celebrate recovery at my church and the leader told me I was fine and didn’t need the program. Praise God I ignored him and did it anyway. It helped and I was sober 8 years. I got married, had kids, but always wanted a resource to help unpack some thoughts. Well I found pure desire about the same time I relapsed hard two years ago. Now the process of healing and recovery is beginning again. It’s very hard not to give in to hopelessness, but unlike 10 years ago I have pure desire to guide me. I’m never alone in Christ and having a guide (pure desire) reminds me there is hope for healing and helps open my eyes to my blind spots. I could write a novel about the ways this ministry has helped but the biggest goft is knowing there are people who have recovered and there are answers to many of the seeming unanswered questions I struggled with for years. Thank you for all you do and please never stop.

Best podcast source out there that is addressing this critical issue. I have been able to share these episodes dozens of times with others who could benefit Thank you for your consistent, faithful production!

Helps believers in Jesus navigate their way in this highly sexualized world

Thank you for sharing the tough topics that we don’t want to talk about when it comes to sexual integrity. Appreciate this team!!

This podcast is amazing so much truth and wisdom to apply to our lives. Love how they use scripture and clinical tools to help us all get and stay healthy!

This podcast along with conquer groups played a big role in our recovery journey. It provided so much hope exactly when we needed it most. I recommend it frequently!!

The people at PD have given me the tools and community to recover from addiction and walk in the new life that Jesus promised.

Until you all wake up to the fact that these Addicts are actually ABUSERS (please refer to Omar Minwalla’s method) this program is EXTREMELY DANGEROUS to victims!!! You don’t protect and promote safety first for the ABUSED spouse. 3 years ago I did your Betrayal and Beyond group with my husband doing the men’s group! Your almost year long program didn’t educate me on my safety being paramount and the ABUSE I had and was still enduring!! You didn’t tell me all the gaslighting, lies, manipulation and sex outside of my marriage was ABUSE! Had someone woken me up earlier and I didn’t need to waste the last three years finally finding out what was really going on in my marriage, I would have understood the abuse and gotten out sooner! God loves me and my safety more than my marriage! You need to call this what it is ABUSE!!!!!!

I love what you guys are doing . So helpful in my recovery .

I love that I can listen to this—since much recovery work requires quiet, solitude, sitting with a workbook and processing. There is much wisdom and helpful tips to give me the support I need.

Thank you for the hope you spread through this podcast.

I listened to half of this episode and had to turn it off. I have found this podcast to be helpful but this episode bothered me. Instead of pointing out how much modern media at all levels promotes hyper sexuality, patriarchy, white supremacy, and female degradation the episode focuses on how many same sex couples are being portrayed in programming for kids. Please have your opinion about this topic but is it really the cause of unwanted sexual behavior? Isn’t recovery your purpose, there seems to be so much messaging that is truly destructive, the fact that you focused on same put a taint on the message you are trying to convey and the help that you are trying to provide.

I started recovery about 1 year ago and these podcasts are integral to my recovery journey! I listen to multiple podcasts most weeks to help me stay focused on my recovery. I re-listened to many of the podcasts and continue to do so. Excited for new episodes!

Love Pure Desire and all that you do. Started listening about a year ago after my wife revealed her infidelity and secret life she had been hiding. This podcast along with Pure Desire counseling has been essential to our healing so thank you! My one suggestion- the majority of references on the show are towards men as the offending spouse and women as the betrayed spouse (not always, but most) and I understand why that is, however it can detract from the true message when the example is exclusively men=betrayer and women=betrayed.

Hard to put in words what this podcast has meant for my life. Absolutely transformed my mentality on sexual addiction and true healing. PDM team, a HUGE thank you for your obedience in this. You are changing people lives, marriages and ministrys. May the Lord bless you tremendously and your families as you continue to do HIS work!

I’ve followed every episode! I absolutely love this podcast! It has really helped me gain traction in healing and my marriage as well as learning how to better lead groups. And knowing that Trevor is a packers fan made it all the better! I’m in Michigan! Let’s make it to a game together! I’ll spot the car ride.

I found your podcast through Sheila Gregoire and I don’t have any personal issues with porn in my life or marriage. But I am in awe of how emotionally and spiritually healthy your advice and perspectives are and almost wish I shared this struggle so I could interact with your groups. I am an advocate in the domestic abuse field and so many of these concepts speak to that world as well. Thank you for putting out such positive content.

I can’t say enough about how God has used PD to infuse the gospel of Christ into my life. I was one of those who loved Jesus since I was 18, but continued to act out with porn, hurting myself and all those around me. I was dying a slow and lonely spiritual death! Like the Hebrew nation who cried to God for release from the bondage of the Egyptians, my cries were heard by my Father, who provided a Moses, Pure Desire, to lead me out of slavery to pornography and into a land of milk and honey. My wife and I both lead PD groups, now, and are working are way through the Connected couples study! Thank you, God! Thank you, Ted and Diane Roberts! And thank you Nick, Trevor and Justin (probably others) for providing so much encouragement through the podcast to those of us that are now working to defeat the enemy who have been squatting in the Promised Land! Bless you!

Only issue I have is that whatever issue that is talked about it is put in a box and everything associated with it is in the box. Most of the time I’m not in the box! Just listening to the great sec guide and I have never been part of that group that thinks that way.

From the FAQ, to the girls only, to the real accounts of true struggle the podcast addresses the ugly truth of what porn can do to relationships. These guys give helpful, practical tactics that you can apply and use to fight the evils of porn and porn addiction. A must listen for true intimacy with your spouse!

I absolutely love listening to this podcast on my way to work. I am currently in a 7 pillars group and love hearing all the tips, stories and encouragement! Thank you pure desire for being awesome and unapologetic about this cancer that is infecting society.

Thank you for all the awesome teaching! Thank you for the information I never knew I needed. I am a betrayed spouse who is very thankful for how Pure Desire is a part of my healing journey. I don’t know how God will use all this teaching in me and how He will use it to help others but I know He will. Thank you!

This podcast has been a lifeline in my recovery from the drug, porn. On days when I forget why I don’t want to stay in recovery these have been crucial and brought my mind back to where I want to be. These are also been very powerful for my wife.

This podcast is life-changing. And I mean that in the truest sense of the word. This podcast kickstarted my healing journey and I’m so grateful to God for that. I have been listening consistently since April 2021 and my life has benefited incredibly. PD is not afraid to have the hard conversations that are needed in this world, and that is super admirable. Trevor and Nick do an awesome job asking questions that will challenge you and make you think. Tuesday is a highlight of the week for me because of this podcast. Thank you Pure Desire for all the work you put into this podcast and into helping men and women live healthy lives and have healthy relationships. Never stop being healthy. - Jacob B

The meat and potatoes of recovery from sexual addiction, with a Godly perspective.

Trevor and Nick have a great gift and as someone in recovery, the shows alway deliver great points. Keep up the great work!

PD is the real deal in getting help, for both the betrayed and the struggler. These guys are so very knowledgeable and the guests are helpful as well. This is the first time I have felt hope in 15 years of our marriage. Everyone is amazingly honest, open, and compassionate. Please listen and support this ministry!

A huge thank you for getting me through this year. A year ago Dec 17th, my already fragile life shattered in a million pieces. Fast forward to now, after what feels like hundreds of hours of therapy, and listening and learning from this podcast, my world has started to stabilize. Thank you for your humility and vulnerability in sharing, for not labeling betrayed wives, and for continuing to learn and grow. Your voices have been strong and gentle and thankful for the Holy Spirits presence to open my heart to a little bit of hope. Keep going. Your killing it <3

Honestly though, At a moment in my life where I felt lost, angry and depressed with my addiction I remember searching “Father Wounds” and found this podcast. I will be forever grateful for that moment. That same year, my wife and I started counseling with Pure Desire which God used to save myself and my marriage. I would argue there is no other organization out there doing what PD does and this podcast is a great weekly rhythm that helps me and my wife pursue healing. Thank you for all that y'all do!