This show will have you jiggling like a bowl full of jelly! I recommend to everyone.

I like the episodes without guests! Alex always seems low energy and disconnected in episodes with guests. The banter I better between the two hosts.

I really want to love this! Important topics and great guests but the constant over-talking is so hard to listen to. It would be cool to let the guests finish a thought or story without hearing a mildly-related anecdote or comment interjected over the speaker. Also this is just me but the vocal fry or whatever trendy distortion is going on just grates on my ears.

I am mixed about this podcast.. I started out thinking it was a great topic and really appreciated the vulnerability the hosts show by sharing their very raw experiences. Normalizing this conversation is very important and you two are doing the work! Thank you. However, I do find the podcast problematic in some ways. It could be so much more constructive, but instead is a lot of pitty party, the same 5 sex stories on repeat, men bashing, fatphobia, etc. etc. room for improvement!

I wish the best for them. They deserve happiness.

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I think Nikki and Alex both contribute valuable insights. I enjoy hearing their opinions even if I don’t feel the same way. For example this show is definitely hetero-focused and leans on gender tropes ie this is what guys do, guys think, guys llike etc. But it might be that their exes, current dates, and male friends are super basic. Sometimes Nikki talks over Alex/the guests and it’s a bummer because you want to hear what they have to say. If that’s a deal breaker for you don’t start with the guest episodes, warm up a bit. Overall they’re both lovely and out here making a show that centers on fat people dating. That’s hard work, excited to see how this grows.

I really love Alex and wish we could be friends LOL! She’s the whole reason I listen ❤️ I really like the Q&A episodes and their dating stories more than “experts” and guests.

Used to be really great and topical, but lately feels like two teenage girls rambling and snickering about boys and private parts like they’re embarrassed…completely the opposite of empowering. There’s really no structure to these anymore and they feel incredibly immature and boring.

Let me preface my review with this: I’m 26 years old, a size 24 and have been with my boyfriend for over four years. We met on Tinder. Okay, now that my disclaimer is out of the way, let me continue. When I first discovered this podcast, I really enjoyed it and binged nearly every episode. It was refreshing to hear other fat women candidly talk about sexual encounters and dating in a large city. It had fat Sex and the City vibes. That said, I started getting extremely anxious when I first started listening to this podcast. Here’s why. IMO, this podcast reinforces the idea that fat women are unloveable or undatable. That simply isn’t true. There are fat women in every city who are happily married or in happy long-term relationships. Sure, dating while fat is definitely hard… definitely harder than it is for thin people. However, the experiences of these two women do not define all fat dating and fat relationships. When I first discovered Swipe Fat, I seriously started thinking that my boyfriend was going to break up with me because I’m fat because according to these women, fat women are unloveable. Of course, the thesis of this podcast is how it’s hard to date when you’re fat. If these women were successful in their dating lives, they wouldn’t have this podcast. However, most of the guests they bring on are fat women in the same position. They’ve only had a few women on who are married or in long-term relationships. I think the vibe of this podcast would be a lot more positive if they brought on fat women in committed relationships. (I’m not just saying that because I am a fat woman in a committed relationship, lol. I don’t want to be on this podcast.) This is going to sound harsh… but as I’ve continued to listen to Swipe Fat, the anxiety I first felt when I discovered the podcast had faded away. It’s clear to me now why Nicci and Alex are single even though they are both conventionally attractive, stylish, successful fat women living in a major city. I generally don’t think women’s standards can be too high when it comes to men and dating… but I DO think these two could be a lot more open minded. One of them said her location radius for her dating apps is three miles. Three! Miles! In the City of Chicago, the third-largest metro area in the US. The same host also works in hospitality and said bartending and freelancing working aren’t “real jobs.” Isn’t that your entire industry? Also, that’s a really classist thing to say on a supposedly progressive feminist podcast… but I digress. On the most recent episode, one of the hosts was complaining about NOT being ghosted by a guy she was seeing. Both hosts have also expressed several times that their personalities aren’t the reasons they’re single, and they’re single because of their looks. That’s an insane thing to say no matter what your size is. (And again, I think they’re both pretty, very fashionable women!) Honestly, Swipe Fat has become a snark listen for me. I used to enjoy it but lately, most of the episodes are the hosts complaining about bad dates, not getting dates, or other petty stuff. I wish they would be a bit more introspective. On top of all the things I’ve already said, they rarely bring on women of color, women above a size 24, queer women… or even men! I think this podcast has a lot of potential for interesting discussion and nuance but the hosts are too busy focusing on their own personal problems. Nicci and Alex, I hope you can reconsider the direction of this podcast. There aren’t many other podcasts like this and I do think it’s a valuable resource for fat women… there’s just a lot of room for improvement.

I needed this. I’ve just started listening and I feel like I’m in the right place. I have no plus sized friends, going through a difficult divorce and I’m in my late 40s. I don’t know anything about anything and I’m thankful for these ladies who are sharing their thoughts and experiences. I’m terrified of dating and being rejected for my size. Listening to your stories gives me hope and confidence. If it’s just for me, you are helping a girl out and I’m here for it. I’m truly thankful.

I binged this podcast because I feel like the subjects talked about are not something I can talk about with my friends. This way I can relate with the stories shared and not feel alone while on this journey but also they give me ideas on what to look for or avoid. This podcast, in my opinion, delivers on what is promised. Two plus size friends talking about their dating life and every so often an expert guest gives advice to help guide us on our own dating journey. We are not all the same and we have different experiences that effect us differently. I appreciate this podcast and the time the girls take to record, edit, and post for all to hear.

Sometimes Nikki talks/interrupts when I’m dying to hear what the other people have to say! You’re awesome, Nikki, but I wanna hear Alex and the guests too!! :)

Ok but why do I have to scroll through all the old ones to find the newest release? None of the others are like that.

I’m a fat (size 24/26), queer person who spent years online dating and was STOKED to find this podcast. I listened to 3 episodes and can’t stomach anymore. I’m married now to a woman I met on a dating app, and lemme tell you, if I had been listening to this while I was dating, it would have solidified all my own insecurities and internalized fatphobia rather than combatted it. The hosts are small fat, straight, cis women, who seem to just be dipping their toes into basic body positivity. I had expected meaningful dialogue about the range of fat experiences while dating and in relationships through a fat liberation (or at the very least a fat positive) lens, but this is absolutely not what I got. Have I (and many if not all other fat people) had similar experiences, thoughts, and feelings? Absolutely. But for there to be no dissection of where it comes from and how to dismantle it is, frankly, irresponsible to all the fat young people who are listening. To say I was disappointed would be an understatement. I won’t be tuning in, but I hope in subsequent episodes they’ve 1) listened to folks who are fatter than they are and 2) found fat positivity and fat liberation to unravel some of the internalized fatphobia the show is rife with. Dating as a fat person can be such a lonely experience and the potential for hearing stories from others in your shoes can be heartening, but ultimately damaging if done with this level of carelessness.

This podcast is for white fat women who either just started dating or just need to hear other fat experiences. And I would recommend it to men and skinny women just so they’d have a starting point of world building outside of themselves. When starting the podcast I thought since they are in their 30s that they would, at least, have been in successful long term relationships or have some kind of successful personal experience to have effective dating advice to pass along. With each episode it becomes clearer they have no idea what they’re doing when it comes to dating. They sound incredibly naive and I’m in my late 20s. Every episode they talk about wanting respectful long term relationships but then later talk about how they accepted less than the bare minimum from men and then wondering why they aren’t getting relationships. The younger one is especially guilty of this. She says she wants a relationship but then acts more interested in hookups and expecting it to turn into a relationship rather than standing her ground in what she really wants. I’m tired of seeing women (especially fat women) not stand firm with men, not advocating decent human respect for themselves, accepting less than the bare minimum, and then wondering why they’re not getting healthy relationships. This is the episode I had to give up: In the episode where they speak to a queer fat black woman about dating apps who vastly outshined them on the subject, it became extremely apparent how little they know about dating, healthy relationships, and poc issues. I’d like to see them stop accepting less than the bare minimum from men, work on their self esteem and stand firm on what they want and deserve, and educate themselves better on social issues before handing out half baked advice.

This is the podcast I didn’t know I needed. Just finished listening to all the available episodes and I can’t wait for more!

I stumbled across this show two weeks ago and I’m hooked! How did it take me so long to find?! You have a fan for life!

I accidentally found this show through TikTok in December and have been excitedly waiting for new episodes each week! As a plus size woman, it’s awesome to have “girl talk” with such strong, talented, beautiful ladies. Alex and Nicci have had such a great effect on me and how I feel about my body. I’m so thankful for them, the show, and the Facebook group.

I love the topics explored on this show, but lately the tension between Nicci and Alex is palpable. So much condescension and defensiveness it truly feels like sitting at the middle school lunch table. Nicci seems deadset on being the cool/chill one, and Alex has a tough time staying on topic once Nicci has made a condescending comment. It’s becoming increasingly unpleasant to listen to. Please work on liking each other again, for the sake of the pod!

I had been following Nicci for quite a while and she kept mentioning the podcast…the other day she said they would be talking about sex so that peaked my interest. I have been binging all the episodes ever since! (And ladies, I met my amazing husband on a dating app so I wanted to let you know, it DOES work!)

Love Alex and Nicci… they have a great dynamic and talk about all the stuff you never talk about with your straight size friends. Thanks for being so amazing ladies!

Love this podcast! Haven’t stopped listening since natalinemeansnice mentioned it!

This podcast is amazing! Thank you for producing content that is crazy relatable. I have listened to Alex & Nicci on my way to work, cleaning the house, and while cooking dinner. I can’t get enough! You both are hilarious and authentic in every episode. If you haven’t listened you are seriously missing out. 5-stars!

These ladies are hilarious! I’ve listened since the beginning and it keeps getting better and better. They share vulnerabilities and tips on confidence. They try new things and share about them. By being open they share that confidence. Definitely worth the listen every week!

Thankful for this community that Nicci and Alex have created through their podcast, Facebook group, and other social platforms. Their content is open, vulnerable, and covers the struggles of dating as a plus-sized woman. And it’s comforting to know that there’s a community of women that they’ve brought together through their podcast that understand each other’s experiences. Thanks, Nicci and Alex!

Having had straight size friends all my life I’ve felt so alone. Every time I listen to an episode I feel part of a community who truly gets it! Listening to these ladies and their amazing chemistry is helping process my hardest breakup yet. Thank you for creating this content!!! 😭😭🤩🤩😭😭🤩🤩🤩

I absolutely love this podcast! I listened to Nicci when she was on the radio in Tampa and always loved her voice and perspective. Now, I get to listen to this podcast and it feels like I’ve gained two new girlfriends. I am learning a lot as a straight sized person and becoming more well rounded and informed. Thank you for your open honesty and sharing your experiences.

It’s great that they’ve started a podcast about dating while fat, but their limited perspective as small fat white middle class cis women who aren’t well versed in fat liberation or size acceptance make for very frustrating listening at times. Having more varied fat people as guests to discuss dating from different aspects of fatness would make for more balanced (and less frustrating) discussions.

Love this podcast! Alex and Nicci are so real, and the conversations are relatable as a fat woman!

The girls break it all down- dating as a plus size women. Nothing is off limits ! So good

Such a relevant and important topic: body positivity. I can’t emphasize how much it’s helped me on my own journey to self love. Def give it a listen!

I’ve been following Alex on Instagram for a little over a year and I truly admire her! But with this podcast I admire her even more! Both her and Nicci are so real and honest when it comes to the topic of being fat and dating. Only they understand a fat girl’s struggle in the real world! I very much love this podcast and also, they’re HILARIOUS! They’re both so natural at this that it shows us all it was meant to be!❤️

Can’t say enough amazing things about this podcast. I’m not necessarily their target audience and I still find it so relatable and entertaining! When listening, I feel like I’m having a conversation with my closest friends and find myself laughing out loud constantly. What an honest, hilarious, relatable podcast!

I’m currently in a fantastic relationship, but how much I can still relate to how hard online/dating is/was as a fat chick... I adore Alex and Nicci and their friendship is #goals! I would recommend this podcast to any of my plus-size friends and can’t wait to see the dating show outcome!! ♥️

I found this show when they were a couple of epsiodes in looking for body positive podcasts. It’s wild to say, but this show has really positively affected my life. It’s well paced, funny, & extremely relatable. One of my favorite things is that it goes back and forth between serious and light hearted. I love the banter between Alex and Nikki, it makes me feel like I know them really well. This show makes me so happy, don’t change it! This is my favorite podcast and I’ve even been re-listening to episodes. I love you guys so much, keep on it!

I look forward to this podcast every Friday - I think Alex and Nicci are engaging hosts with relateable conversations. I have a lot of fun listening and look forward to more episodes. I've recommended this podcast to many of my friends. I think it's necessary to point out, though, that sometimes their word choices can veer to be a bit problematic. For instance, there's one episode where the outdated term 'transvestite' was used. I didn't love that. Second, their language can sometimes veer towards being disparaging to smaller women. I'm a plus size woman and I have a problem with their referring to thinner women as 'twigs' or 'sticks' as I've heard multiple times on the pod and most recently on their guest appearance on the Confidence Collective. It's not body positive to refer to other women who also have valid body types in a kind of objectifying way. Love the pod, don't love the word choice.

So I actually stumbled across a casting for a show called Dating in the Modern Day. Alex and Nicci were to be the main focus of the show and each episode of the show consist of 3 guys being set up to date with each girl. I chose to be set up with Nicci and got interviewed by Alex. I must say, after listening to this podcast, I am so happy I chose to be a potential date for Nicci. She seems like someone I would ideally love to date long term. Her personality is absolutely hilarious and seems to have a lot of the same likes as myself. Especially her style in what she wears, watches, and that she has a very carefree personality. However, I will also say Alex is definitely hilarious as well and I can see why these two girls are best friends. They’re hilarious together. I am a straight size male with a little bit of a dad bod, and I truly love listening into to this podcast. I love how raw and unedited these two girls are about dating and what it’s like for a “fat” girl to date in today’s society. I think I weirdly relate to them on a level that it’s just hard to date in today‘a world as a 30+ year old, so I can only imagine the difficulty for these two girls. Truthfully I really do hope I get to date Nicci, because I can totally see is having a lot of fun and would definitely be able to hold a great conversation (more than once). If you are a “fat” person, or a millennial, or just someone struggling with dating in today’s modern day in age of hookup culture, this is definitely the podcast for you!

I love this podcast so much and I feel like Alex and Nicci are my new best friends.

They are funny and so honest about their experience dating. It’s like the bachelorette but with real women. I’m rooting so hard for them both!

I cannot get enough of this podcast and never want these episodes to end! Highly recommend!

Saw this show on tiktok and quickly became OBSESSED! So great to hear women talking about dating with the explicit focus that dating while fat is different and often times a lot harder! Grateful for what these hosts are sharing w us!!

I loved this podcast from the moment I previewed it. I’m hooked! It’s real conversations with no holds barred and makes me feel seen and valid. It really is a conversation with girlfriends about dating and it’s so relatable. I 100% recommend giving this gem a listen! men are trash and fat isn’t a bad word! ❤️🍷🛏 (why isn’t there a chicken finger emoji)

So relatable, and super glad to be part of this awesome community!

Love how relatable this is! The energy of both of you is amazing! Can’t wait to hear more

Love these girls. I feel like I’m just having a convo with girlfriends. Would love if they could interview other girls too!

Found this podcast thanks to TikTok and as a midsized lady who is newly back on dating apps after a 5 year hiatus, I’m loving listening to these ladies talk about the struggles of being fat, single and ready to mingle.

I loved the first episode and felt like I was hanging out with my pals. Even as a married women, I can connect and I love the topics they discuss. I really related to being surrounded by thin friends who tell me “you’re not fat, your pretty” I can be both. Let’s celebrate everyBODY! Thank you for sharing your voice Swipe Fat y’all. You’ll be glad you did.

Sign me up!!! Loved this episode, I cannot wait for more! I’m so excited about the conversations to come! You guys have already hit home talking about being “hidden” while dating or hanging out and then getting ghosted and them coming back because they don’t want to “date the fat girl”! Soooo relatable and these discussions are long over due, and I’m also a Chicago girl! ❤️

Once I heard this podcast was released, I couldn’t wait to listen. 5 minutes in I can honestly say how much I hit home. As a fellow fat girl, I myself have experienced the kinks and quirks of dating, and how much more difficult it really is! The girls are so sweet, you can feel their energy through the mic. I can’t wait to continue to listen!!