Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram


There is so much great and life-changing information about sex and intimacy, but let’s face it, it can be dry as hell! Intimacy expert and sexologist Shan Boodram takes a deep dive into anything and everything about sex, relationships, and the science of attachment every week with expert guests and friends who will tell all. It’s everything The Talk should be.

Recent Episodes
  • 66: Saving Our Relationship By Having an Open One feat. Bayleigh and Swaggy C
    Mar 22, 2023 – 01:00:16
  • 65: Becky G Opens Up About Being Sick and Sick and Tired of Hating Herself
    Mar 15, 2023 – 53:12
  • 64: I'm a Grown Ass Woman Woman Without Any Friends... feat. Krista from Almost 30
    Mar 8, 2023 – 01:00:01
  • 63: Sex: Your Steamy Questions with My Husband
    Mar 1, 2023 – 54:54
  • 62: It Could've Worked Out But... ft. Lauren Jauregui on Breaking Up with Ty Dolla $ign
    Feb 22, 2023 – 01:03:24
  • 61: When Your Soulmate Becomes Your Ex
    Feb 18, 2023 – 42:42
  • 60: I Thought I Was Straight Until I Met You Feat Kiana Lede
    Feb 8, 2023 – 41:40
  • 59: Celibutt...Good Lord It's Hard Ft Stephan Speaks
    Feb 1, 2023 – 45:26
  • 58: If You're Single, You Have to Listen to This Feat Glo Atanmo
    Jan 25, 2023 – 01:02:06
  • 57: The Surprising Highs and Lows of Sex and Love(?) Under the Influence feat. Sarah Levy
    Jan 18, 2023 – 53:42
  • 56: Dangerously in Love feat. Nick Viall
    Jan 11, 2023 – 52:57
  • 55: The Butt Plug Story that Summarized 2022 + 20 Other Questions to Ground Your Year
    Jan 5, 2023 – 32:56
  • 54: Good Sex because of My Best Friend feat. Good Moms Bad Choices
    Dec 14, 2022 – 54:54
  • 53: Yes, I was the Villain in My Relationship feat. Jessie Reyez
    Dec 7, 2022 – 01:00:09
  • 52: If You Really Knew Me, You’d Leave Me feat. Steelo Brim
    Nov 30, 2022 – 41:37
  • 51: I'm Concerned About Our Love After Kids Ft. Jared Brady
    Nov 16, 2022 – 47:19
  • 50: Go to Therapy or We're Over Ft. David So
    Nov 11, 2022 – 44:14
  • 49: This is What Happens When a Single Woman Turns 30, feat Kamie Crawford.
    Nov 2, 2022 – 45:55
  • 48: Longterm - Sex Is Hard (NO pun intended..or maybe it is) feat. Kev On Stage and Mrs Kev On Stage
    Oct 27, 2022 – 52:11
  • 47: Dating in Your Twenties (is) For Dummies FT. Harry Jowsey and Georgia Hassarati
    Oct 20, 2022 – 50:30
  • 46: Sacred Sex For People Who Don't Believe Featuring Tanerélle
    Oct 12, 2022 – 57:55
  • 45: I Don't Sleep with Women, But I Do Have Sex with Them feat. Sincere Show
    Oct 6, 2022 – 47:24
  • He's a cheating, code-less mother fucker feat. Tefi Pessoa
    Sep 29, 2022 – 48:06
  • Tall, Dark, Handsome and Sexually Insecure feat. Mike Johnson
    Sep 21, 2022 – 48:06
  • Do We Believe Her? ft. Abby De La Rosa + Submissive Women Episode Response
    Sep 14, 2022 – 01:01:41
  • Giving Birth, Saying Bye to My Husband and Discovering Who TF I Am
    Aug 23, 2022 – 22:28
  • My Nightmare Living With A Pregnant Woman - Jared Brady Takeover!
    Aug 2, 2022 – 35:07
  • I'm Ready to Give Birth and I'm Still Not...Excited. What Now? feat. Shanola Hampton
    Jul 27, 2022 – 58:43
  • Help! Should I Leave Him or Double Down on Loving Him? feat. Tee
    Jul 20, 2022 – 42:41
  • Soul Mates or Settling? The Friends to Lovers Story feat. Ezee and Natalie
    Jul 12, 2022 – 52:13
  • Men's Ego: The Real Cock Blocker for Great Sex feat. Tim Chantarangsu
    Jul 6, 2022 – 53:28
  • I Baby My Man and It Works For Us feat. Jasmin "Watch Jazzy" Brown
    Jun 28, 2022 – 57:41
  • Blowjobs: Everything You Didn’t Know You Needed to Know feat. Rayna Greenberg GGE
    Jun 22, 2022 – 39:54
  • Toxic Self Love feat. Nina Parker
    Jun 8, 2022 – 42:22
  • Don’t Ask Me My Sign
    Jun 1, 2022 – 51:14
  • My Breakup was a Break Free ft/ Sorelle Amore
    May 25, 2022 – 43:32
  • I (kinda) Hate My Lover ft/ Jazzmyne Jay
    May 18, 2022 – 57:51
  • The Debatable Legacy of Kevin Samuels
    May 11, 2022 – 54:08
  • Let’s Talk About They, Baby
    May 4, 2022 – 56:16
  • Sex and the Saints w/ Shameless Maya
    Apr 27, 2022 – 59:17
  • Am I Undateable? w/ Khleo Thomas and Mandii B
    Apr 13, 2022 – 48:35
  • My Ex Was a Gaslighter w/ Melissa Rivers
    Apr 6, 2022 – 49:53
  • You're Dating Out of Your League w/ Harry Jowsey
    Mar 30, 2022 – 50:12
  • The Funny Thing About Love And Sex w/ Hannah Berner
    Mar 23, 2022 – 42:02
  • This Baby Is Killing Our Sex Life
    Mar 16, 2022 – 55:53
  • Why Straight Men Are Boring In Bed
    Mar 9, 2022 – 55:30
  • Breaking Up Is Fun To Do w/ Kamie Crawford
    Feb 23, 2022 – 53:40
  • Dating In Your Twenties. One Word: Resentment
    Feb 16, 2022 – 52:31
  • The Naked Truth On Loving Your Body
    Feb 9, 2022 – 47:32
  • Boss In The Streets And (Currently) Meh In The Sheets w/ Rachel Lindsay
    Feb 2, 2022 – 50:28
Recent Reviews
  • Fargas22
    This gives me sanity!
    I love listening to you, Shan! I love the topics especially those that are most difficult to have! I relate to so many of them and I’m always eagered to hear what the next episode will be about. I love the transperancy of this podcast and the vulnerability that your guest have to have. I look forward to listening to more of your pods!
  • lulurainn
    Can you connect through a Podcast? 😅
    Connecting or having conversations with folks surrounding me can be so difficult because of the lack of depth and understanding I feel from their behalf. Having the privilege to have stumbled across this Podcast has been my highlight of the year! I feel like when I tune into an episode I am part of the conversation and I am left feeling like I got my daily dose of socializing. I absolutely love taking whatever I hear and discussing it with my lover 🥰 10/10 Highly recommend
  • djakqjenrbskx djsjs
    I love this show and the insightful and interesting conversations!
  • Forever.MKB
    Incredible Thought-Provoking Content
    I have been binge listening your content since the beginning of this year. I’m always walking around with my wireless earpiece listening to your podcast and I’m sure I have gotten several side-eyes from randomly bursting with laughter while at work. Your content literally gets me through the day. If you’ve had any doubt about whether or not you are accomplishing the initial goal of this podcast, let me be the one to tell you that in my opinion you have very successfully integrated entertaining and informative content. I have learned soooo much from listening and I pray you continue sharing these gems with the world.
  • LeyLey4life
    New Format
    Hi Shan!!! I love your show and have been listening for almost two years. Super thankful for all the gems that have made my life better and the amazing guests you’ve had on the show; however, the new format makes me feel like I’m an outsider to the conversation. Almost as if you and your guests are talking over my head and there’s missing information in the episode. I hope this is received in love. I still ADORE this show and will continue to support!
  • 01ashlynn
    10/10 beautiful podcast
    Shan is such an intelligent, beautiful, intriguing, well thought out human that I’ve very much enjoyed listening to over the past years. The way she explains everything, the vulnerability and honesty of her being, and the perspectives and poise she brings to this podcast is like no other. I have learned so much from this podcast alone. Thank you for all you do and for putting yourself out there for the benefit of others!
  • :-/ meh
    Shan and Jared after Kids
    I love this podcast and I always tune in. This specific episode was so raw and so real. I am single without kids and it def gave me a lot to think about in all the best ways. This is also the first time I really “saw” Jared. I’ve always “saw” Shan but this episode helped me to catch a glimpse of y’all as a unit and really hold space for what y’all have. I would love to hear about what an open relationship for y’all looks like and how often you both step out of the relationship to be with other lovers. After hearing this episode I just can’t believe that you both don’t exist on your own planet with only your kids. There was so much love during this episode. It was so beautiful.
  • janicesweetness
    We need less unnecessary chatter
    What really draws me to this podcast is that there isn’t any side chatter or over talking each other where I can barely understand. Shan allows the guest to talk and she is intently engaged. Also she make people like us feel like were seen. Shan is so relaxed and relatable.
  • OhDamn8
    My new favorite podcast!
    Can’t start my day without listening to Shan! Definitely relate to a lot of her topics and love how she keeps it real! Would love to hear an episode of co-dependent relationships!
  • Djudelie
    Amazing, thought provoking, relatable podcast you didn’t know you needed
    I came here to say I never felt more seen especially watching that friends episode, just to see someone else already commented that exact thing lol but that’s testament to the amazing work you are doing. I’m going through such a tough time rn figuring myself and life out, and navigating all the obstacles that comes with growing and healing. And this podcast has been such a monumental part of that journey. Thank you for the work you’re putting into creating this Shan, and thank you to the guest for sharing such intimate parts of your lives ❤️
  • Chan Gray
    Love This Podcast!
    Shan, I felt so seen in the friendship episode. I have friends that I feel that I have outgrown and friendships that I want to grow but the work I know it will take, overwhelms me. A lot of my friends are very different and may not even mesh together if I tried to get them together. I have some things to consider. Thank you for this episode!
  • TD-HS
    Such valuable and honest conversations!
    I love, love, love this podcast. I’ve been listening to it for a long time but I think one of the most vulnerable and hard hitting episodes to date is the recent one on friendships. So many valuable nuggets of truth and wisdom, and such interesting perspectives. Shan has such great rapport and interviewing style with her guests, and is very forthcoming and leads with honesty regarding her own relationships. I appreciate her open mindedness, the way she disarms guests with compassion and genuine listening, and the way she constantly evolves as a content creator with integrity.
  • Ms_Holliday93
    How many of us have them?
    I am so impressed by this episode on friendship! It really resonated with me in a time where I feel like I’m struggling to make “active friends.” I’ve never understood why society doesn’t emphasize the importance of platonic relationships more and this episode really made me feel less alone in my longing for them.
  • Chloe8y259
  • Kell Phil
    Love the pod
    Awesome podcast that I think gets better and better with time. Lately has been more consistent with putting out in the same day and a lot of great content. Keep doing you ✨
  • BlacknGolden
    For the lovers, and FRIENDS!
    I’ve been listening for over a year and have always been impressed by Shan’s topics and interview questions. The Friendship episode really hit a cord for me. My friendship style closely resembles Tabia’s (without the kids) and I LIVE for the discussions around friendships. Throughout my life I have always felt more enriched by platonic relationships over romantic ones. I think people need to talk about friendships more often. Thank you for discussing this so I have another one of your links to send to all my girls.
  • aleale14
    No one does it like Shan!
    I love love love Shan and have been a huge fan of hers for years. This podcast is the highlight of my week and I always look forward to listening to it on Wednesday mornings on my commute to work. Her topics, guests, and can I add ad placements? are amazing! I normally skip through ad placements but Shan somehow finds ways to connect them to her show and I love it! Props to Shan for creating such an engaging podcast, keep up the amazing work. 💖
  • BrittAnar
    Refreshingly Authentic
    Shan is using her platform to have the uncomfortable conversations that we all need to be having. I love this podcast.
  • BrittCaff
    Always perfect timing
    I just finished listening to the episode about friendships and it couldn’t have come at a better time. I felt like the guests were speaking directly to my heart and could relate to Shan’s own observations about herself. I’ll definitely be giving this one a playback so I can take notes!
  • Bells🎈
    Love this Podcast!
    “Good Sex because of My Bestfriend” showed me how much I want real friendships in my life. They support they have for one another is something all women should have in their life
  • natnatvee
    Thought provoking, raw and clever!
    Shan, I’ve been a fan of yours for years on YouTube. This podcast complements all your other creative platforms and generates many necessary conversations in a fun, modern and honest way. Definitely worth listening
  • kristakk622
    So many “ah- ha moments”
    When I tell you I am SUCH a fan… Your vulnerability, love, wisdom, and of course your spicy side has opened me up to so much. I constantly incorporate the things I learn, emotionally AND physically, in both my platonic and romantic relationships. One thing listeners can really learn from you is how you hold space for people that might think differently, and then turn that knowledge into an objective statement that empathizes with a thought process that might be very different from our own views. Thank you deeply for sharing all that you do.
  • Kiyana Jade
    Always on time
    I have deep intellectual, emotional, and reflective conversation all the time with my deep soul connection person/bestie and this production always seems to come up in discussion. I love this podcast and keep doing what you’re doing.
  • Kaylannicoole
    I grieved.. like really grieved the death of Chadwick Boseman. His life deeply impacted me and his death made me that more committed to not settling for a love that doesn’t inspire me. Thanks to you, I now understand that he is a muse soulmate for me. I loved that episode, thank you Shan.
  • Kel in Brooklyn
    Press play!
    I listened to just ONE episode and it offered sooo much insight. The quality and honesty of the conversations is invaluable.
  • gladys. a
    Had to get a tutorial to Leave review!
    Hi Shan Boodram! I am such a fan of the show! I am new to podcast and I started with Kamie’s podcast! And she introduced me to you! I love your contest, how you give your opinion based on your experience but also have the research to back you up! I wanted to leave you a review forever and as ignorant as this sounds! I did not know how to, I had to Google it lol! Two of my favorite episodes are the row recent ones! The one talking about sex with your husband and the one talking about “soulmate becoming your ex” which by the way you scared me thinking you and your hubby had broken up! Anyways love your work and will forever be a fan! -Gladys A. From Mass
  • runanteldat
    Love the Q&A!!
    Would really like to see it implemented once a month or so
  • L_Will
    The different types of soulmates was by far my favorite episode.. I definitely made me reflect on some of my past relationships and forced me to get real with myself as to why I am content with my current single status for the past 8 years. As always your topics are thought provoking and I love that about your podcast!! If there was one topic I would like to hear more about it would be finding your life partner later in life.
  • BackToIG
    Love is Healing
    I have been following Shan for about 5 years now. My friend suggested I followed Shan on Instagram while I was struggling to let go of an ex after a breakup. I have been loving the Lovers & Friends podcast!!! It is so refreshing to gain perspective on how I relationship, hear stories I can relate to, and feel like I’m not alone. Thank you for this!
  • ceemonstah00
    Loved this Q&A episode with Jared!!
    Loved all the questions on here. I related to a couple of them as a woman who struggles with vaginismus & a bisexual woman who is in two separate relationships currently with a man and a woman. I appreciated Jared’s perspective on all the questions, especially the one about vaginismus as my male partner & I both agree that it’s better to just be honest about the condition and seek medical help. It is definitely more of a pyschological process than physical, so my recommendation is to talk openly about it with your partner & have sex when it feels natural and when you and your body feel open to it. And lube… lots of lube!! Also wanted to make an episode suggestion for topics on polyamory, late blooming lesbians, and someone who is opening their relationship but not in a thruple way, just having more than one partner, etc. Love the pod & have been a fan for a while!! :)
  • danielle j 1
    These topics are always on time!
  • chelsea8a
    Throughly enjoyed :’)
  • Hellosrating
    For one of my soul mates!
    Shan! I’ve been following you for some years now and I continue to be Intrigued!!! (I LOVE LOVE EVERYTHING YOU AND YOUR FAMILY DOES AND REPRESENTS) In one of your previous episodes you mentioned how you started to get bv or utis when you would hook up with an ex. I would be so interested in knowing more about that? I would be interesting to hear more about the mind, body, and “soul” connection for people during sex. :)
  • YoTinaeri
    Always so nice listening to your esp. So easy to digest and I always learn something new. New ideas, no prospectives, new topics! Keep up the genuine work!
  • Nikkocyn
    Loving it so far!
    Recently started listening to this podcast and I love it. Definitely some episode I will listen to again and again!
  • regmegh
    Love you long time, Shan!
    I’ve been following Shan for years and have much respect for her as a pioneer in the sex/love/relationship space. Her journey has been awesome to witness! The topics and conversations she has on this pod are always so intentional, meaningful, and real. Would love to hear more on polyamorous relationships, thruples, etc + experiences with inviting additional individuals into the bedroom while in a monogamous relationship. Keep doing your thing girl!
  • Lisa.and.Daisy
    Wonderful podcast
    Hi it’s me, the one who hasn’t left a review and listens to the end The soulmate episode really really hit me in the feels, in such a good way! I wanna thank you for being so open about relationships and life. I look forward to listening to your podcast every week and taking what I learned into my own relationship
  • Your bestie, Aisha Marie
    This podcast makes me happy
    Oh Shan, I really love you and this podcast! I always seem to listen to you when I’m cooking, and I think this podcast actually makes my food taste better lol! I’ve learned a lot about the world and myself because each episode give me the opportunity to reflect on my own experiences and choices. I love every episode I’ve heard, but I found the herpes, “men’s ego”, and gaslighting episodes to be particularly interesting, and would love to hear an episode about HIV/AIDS and one about why women need platonic friendships with other women. I’m looking forward to your interview with Raye, and wish that listeners could submit questions to your guests beforehand. Thank you!
    Love Lovers and Friends
    I truly love this pod. I eagerly await the next episode! One topic suggestion: Women who’ve had sex but never experienced love or intimacy.
  • GabbyDDL
    Alyx V.
    Hey girl! I have been a supporter for over 10 years now. I love how you are bringing so much humanity to the world especially right now in such a hard time where disconnection is more common than connection. You give me hope honestly. I have also loved Lauren since she was on XFactor and have always felt a connection to her so I’m so grateful she is in this place in her life I’m so happy for her truly. I’d love for you to talk about transgender people’s experience with love and sex as well as talking about fetish communities that are more taboo (ie feet, vore, furries, inflation, etc) I just feel like that would be so interesting to hear your perspective. I always love your inclusion of the LGBTQ+ community and intimacy topics, I feel like more talk about sex specifically would be fun as well. Have a great day! Thank you for sharing in such a vulnerable and communicative way. You definitely are my muse soulmate. I don’t listen to podcasts ever besides this one. You are wonderful and inspire the fruitful loving relationship I’m in now, constantly.
  • Marissasumire
    My muse soul mate!
    I am updating my review to say that I have listened to almost every episode of Lovers and Friends and I also follow Shan and Jared and Lauren on Instagram. I LOVE their love story and their family. They are such a beautiful family. Shan gets so deep, poetic and vulnerable on this show. I love every episode I have listened to and it always gives me so much to think about. I also find myself laughing and sometimes even crying. It hits all my emotional needs. Thank you Lovers and Friends!
  • A.MOSS.
    5 Stars!
    I am a long time listener & I truly enjoy you, the topics, & your guests. What an amazing podcast to listen to. I have cried, laughed, felt joy & pain. Your openness & vulnerability are so very appreciated & not taken for granted. You provide a safe space for others & I hope you know your listeners provide a safe space for you. The reviews are proof of that! Thank you Shan!
  • Fancy278
    Just WOW!
    I just want to thank you Shan. These conversations are so needed and I appreciate your passion and dedication to feeding this generation. I pray your work transcends further generations and is a blueprint to us just being better to each other. I’d love to hear more about the different types of abuse and how to recognize if a relationship is salvageable.
  • Jayrosexoxo
    One of My Favorite Podcasts
    Always thought provoking topics, leaves me thinking about the conversation way after I’m done listening to each episode. Also, such great and different guests. I listen to a lot of podcasts and this podcast specifically has guests that I’ve never heard from anywhere else. So thank you Shan, love you!
  • Fgm83
    “It could have worked out…” episode
    Lauren had some incredible wisdom. I recently experienced a breakup with my longest relationship (almost 5 years) and knowing that I had to walk away from something I loved so much was hard. I am feeling reaffirmed and grateful for the good and the bad. Thank you for this episode!
  • BaiBry
    Love the podcast
    Love the show and helping me grow on my journey to healing and discovery. Erica Thanks
  • WillySoto
    Such a relatable/honest episode!
    Shan! I have followed you since your very early youtube days and it’s been so cool to see you evolve as both a person and professional!! I love the topics you bring up, your authenticity and just overall dopeness. This episode was so relatable and just so, so honest. I love how candid and reflective she was. I can relate to her a lot. Thank you for doing this episode!!!
  • mjwonder
    Updated Review!
    Yet again, Shan and her guests are always coming through with the gems, and education! Every single episode has me reflecting on how I show up for myself, in relationships (of any kind) and in the world. Thank you shan for this thought provoking, incredible podcast! Still my #1 fave!
  • zeldaellie
    Used to be obsessed with every episode
    Hi Shan, I'm posting this because I've followed the podcast from the beginning and you've asked for detailed feedback :) I used to love all the early episodes when you had your lovers, friends and family on (real people). I admired the creativity of the production, how you all had honest and hard conversations and brought up things I'd never thought about. For example, the divorce episode with Bart and Geo (i started listening to their podcast after), the Tefi episode was fun, long term sex, the men's body and insecurities topic, your convos with Jared (yeah i listened to his former podcast too bc of you!) and your advice episode even. Soon it started to become a show about "celebrities" who seem to feel that you're a safe space for them to share their practiced messages and confessions..and frankly I'm just not interested in that. There have been some good "celeb" ones (like Sincere, and I felt bad for his story but it did impact me) but overall I'm listening less. I used to share and discuss every single episode with my friends but I no longer feel like there's much to debate or discuss. It feels very tabloid-like. If this is the direction you're going because it does better (viral views, downloads etc), I have no hate. Just sharing my honest personal opinion, which you've been asking us to do. I know it's a hard balance. These are just my thoughts and I've rated you a 5 in the past. Either way I wish you lots of success, whatever that means to you and your loved ones. 💖
  • GabriellaKD
    We love Shan
    Shan has always been so educational and relatable.
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