Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

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From her TikTok and Instagram, @findingmrheight, dating coach Ali Jackson is joined by friend & stand up comedian Erica Spera (@spericaa) to bring you their positive and practical dating approach in podcast form. Their straightforward attitudes, often with some humor on the side, will help you tackle modern dating issues while building confidence and staying authentic to your true self. Follow along @findingmrheight for even more content!

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  • kwj18
    Gone downhill
    Used to like this podcast more when it was Roark and Ali sharing dating updates and being vulnerable. So many of the episodes nowadays aren’t really about dating, and the hosts don’t even seem to like each other. It’s often uncomfortable and boring to listen to.
  • Rebecca E. Marlborough
    Love Ali
    Love Ali…but seems Erica could be a bit more supportive of her? She doesn’t seem to care.
  • idontfeellikemakinganickname
    Ali snipping at Erica
    I used to enjoy this show but lately it’s been very hard to listen to because Ali is constantly snipping at Erica (on the main pod and especially on the Patreon). It seems like every episode has become Ali getting angry at Erica saying an innocuous or well-intentioned thing. A recent example is when Ali was expressing some regret over sleeping with someone, and Erica kindly told her she shouldn’t feel ashamed over it. Ali then quickly snapped at her that she doesn’t feel ashamed. Erica seems like a great friend and it makes me sad to listen to Ali constantly put her down. (I’m not saying that 100% of the things Erica says come out perfectly, but Ali flips out over things that are completely banal). It seems like Erica has outgrown Ali and this podcast. I think Ali needs to take a break from the podcast and work with a new therapist to break her anxious dating patterns. It’s obvious that she’s acting out of anxiety and insecurity, and it’s ruining both her friendships and potential relationships.
  • dddddddddgdgdgddd
    Dating podcast where no one goes on dates
    It feels like the hosts don’t actually like each other
  • myainsel
    The ali lady needs help
    Girl just find a new therapist and stop living in this pickme denial 😬
  • lambo578
    Disappointing
    Ali is clearly a business minded person. She tags every single item she buys in her posts and pod for commission. While being so ambitious about posting, she can’t even support and acknowledge her old co host Roark who started a new podcast. It’s hard to follow an influencer who shells out materialism on things she hasn’t even tried before posting.
  • EMK516!
    LOVE! Feel Like I’m Chatting with Friends
    This is my new favorite pod!! I had heard of both Erica (through JTrain pod) and Ali (through TT), but hadn’t made the connection that they knew each other. I’m so happy to have found this great podcast! I love listening to their life updates, insights, and perspectives. As a single gal in my late twenties, listening to Erica and Ali feels like a conversation with my supportive (and funny) best friends.
  • ClairePDX12
    Not enough of an edge
    Enjoy listening to these two women and find them insightful, smart, and kind. But as a podcast goes it feels a bit bland. Both the material and the hosts lack that edge that comes with being just a little bit naughty.
  • Hallie6611
    Awkward
    The uncomfortable skin tone comments from the white host are…honestly shocking.
  • Chelsea.Mattson
    Love it!
    I started listening when I was getting back into dating post divorce. It was super helpful (and entertaining!) when navigating the online dating scene. Now I’m engaged (going to get married in just a couple days) but still listen because I love hearing the stories and topics.
  • chachacha55
    Miss
    Ali is so energetic and fun to follow, but Erica is like the Eeyore of the pod. Hard to listen.
  • cassiethechef26
    Loveable undateables
    omg the dating podcast I’ve been waiting for. It’s tough to listen to podcasts where the hosts know what they are doing. On this one it’s the opposite. one cohost has herpeez (oof) and the other has the personality equivalent of herpes (ooooof) But it’s really encouraging to hear their stories… i for one feel much better about my life
  • Runningon4joy
    Love the dating app fatigue one
    Thank you for validating everything I was feeling in this crazy process of dating … dating fatigue is real. Taking a break from them … not gonna feel bad about it 🙌🏻
  • happyrosebud91
    Wow love Rachel
    Loved the episode with Rachael Wright. It kind of blew my mind open. Thank you
  • unsubscriber123
    WMAA worst guest
    Last episode with Lindsay was the worst esp mentioning marriage being something to check off the list- huh?? And once that is checked you can focus on your career. So single people don’t focus on their career? She babbles without saying anything meaningful or introspective. I was also horrified when she said you need to be 10% insecure in your marriage. Sounds like someone who is 100% insecure in their marriage. Ali and Erica you did a great job- but this episode sucked and I hope younger girls done live by these “rules”
  • julepasta
    Love ‘em
    Love this show but Lindsey from we met at acme is a terrible guest, seriously the worst advice, so condescending and clearly obsessed with just being married
  • sobarufifrons
    Meh
    Hit or miss.
  • Brian Peoples
    It’s Just Great
    There aren’t enough podcasters out there who know how to know how to both hit the check boxes, and keep things light/funny. The banter is charming. Erica’s quick wit really brings something special to the show. Really an amazing option in the world of dating shows. 5 Stars!
  • Lovely Lady Lydia
    One of my fave dating podcasts
    Loved the original podcast with Roark and am totally on-board for its latest iteration with Erica. Excited for future episodes!
  • Rhody19
    Erica and Ali
    I LOVE Erica! The dynamic between Ali and Erica is just perfect. It’s more laid back and relaxed. The conversation seems to flow a lot easier and it seems the conversations are honestly a lot better. It’s even a little spicer than the normal content, which I love. Love this new host with Ali!
  • Tessnp
    My new favorite podcast
    Real, inspiring people
  • dadavidson
    Be Kind
    I used to genuinely love this podcast and the FMH platform. I was a paid member on Patreon and a pretty loyal follower. However, over the past few months Ali has gotten increasingly rude in her advice giving. On her live videos and on the podcast she comes across as abrupt and rude when speaking to her followers and answering listener questions. She is absolutely not obligated to speak about her personal life as she likes to constantly remind us, BUT it’s a little hypocritical to build a following out of doing so and then say that. A tip: if you don’t want to answer questions about your dating life, don’t build a platform based on sharing who you’re dating, monetize it, and then act offended when followers ask about it. That is not the only time when she is rude though, even when answering questions listeners ask for advice in their lives she is unnecessarily curt, judgy, and demeaning. I wish she could find the balance of giving straightforward advice and also being kind, but it seems as though she can’t.
  • miranz.h
    I can’t stop listening
    Ali and Roark are the dating besties that everyone needs! What makes this dating podcast stand out from others is that Ali and Roark are ACTUALLY dating. I love the topics they discuss but I really love the updates on their dating life. I’m what Logan Ury would call a hesitator (episode 16 for more info on that reference) when it comes to dating, and listening to this podcast has motivated me to be more proactive. Also, I highly recommend subscribing to the patron for the juicer updates.
  • M_R.c
    Only listen if you have Patreon
    I have been a religious weekly listener since the podcast debuted over a year ago. Initially I was very invested in the stories and information shared on this platform, and I still am, but the show has become too hard to follow lately. This is because the hosts also have a separate podcast they record on Patreon. The Patreon episodes have much more detail and come out more quickly than the regular podcast episodes. The hosts also are very active on social media and give real time updates on their account(s). This means that whether you are a regular podcast listener, a Patron, or just a social media follower, all the information comes in out of order and it’s hard to orient oneself in time. I fully understand that not all content can or should be free and that there is safety and confidentiality behind a paywall, but a huge part of the draw to this show is to go on the hosts’s dating journey with them. This requires some level of self disclosure on their part. Originally, this is what made show/concept special. While the hosts are not obligated to give listeners a weekly “tell all” about their personal lives, I do feel as though listeners/followers are who are not financially willing or able to pay for the Patreon subscription are not offered a great experience. Normal listeners are constantly teased and taunted with information that they can only access if they spring for the patreon membership. It comes off as very cliquey and “you can’t sit with us”. The hosts often stop and laugh about Patreon specific inside jokes and the flow of conversation/interviews is often interrupted to refer back to what was or will be discussed on the Patreon without providing context or detail. Lately it feels like if you are not a patron you are not a valued part of the listenership. This type of podcast may be better suited for a platform like Luminary (paid streaming app) or just offered exclusively on Patreon. Normal listeners are getting left behind.
  • Ckozii
    Your advice has helped me with dating!
    Just wanted to give you both a shout out, love your realness, humor, and advocacy for what you want and need when it comes to dating! Thank you for normalizing being ‘needy’ and having scripts to use that definitely come in handy. Keep doing the great work you’re doing, it’s made a world of difference to me and how I approach dating and asking for what I want!
  • avidlistener494
    Angry Ali
    I think this podcast is fun, but the advice should be taken with a grain of salt. Ali is one of the biggest hypocrites and clearly has personal issues that alter the advice she gives/ how she gives it. When offered constructive feedback, she lashes out in a really uncomfortable (and often unnecessary) way. She generally seems mean spirited and quick to anger which is strange for someone that promotes “healthy dating”. I do however enjoy what a different outlook Roark has on dating, it creates a fun space for banter and discussion.
  • ArielM_P
    The best!!!
    Ali and Roark have an amazing podcast where they not only share mature and positive ways to approach dating/relationships, they also are being vulnerable (in the best way) by updating on their own dating lives. Would highly recommend for anyone, regardless of dating status. I’m in a long term relationship and I’ve found great insights as well as just genuine enjoyment/laughter in listening to the pod
  • Becs 💗💗💗
    BEST PART OF MY WEEK
    I cannot begin to explain how grateful I am that this pod came into my life. Ali and Roark make my WEEK every week. I love hearing about their dating stories and I appreciate their advice and frameworks so much. I started listening right after a break up and didn’t think I’d be dating anytime soon…Flash forward several months and I built up the courage to start app-dating for the first time. And I have this pod to thank for empowering me to put myself out there in a new way. I feel so much more comfortable and confident navigating dating with the help of Ali and Roark’s incredible insight and guidance. I tell everyone about FMH. THANK YOU GUYS 🥰
  • theslayinchilean
    My favorite things about mondays
    Love this! So relatable! I’ve learned some new vocab and how to practice setting and discovering my own boundaries both in dating and friendships! Keep going!
  • podcastfan273
    Hooked on this podcast!
    One of my best friends told me to start listening and I’m so glad she did. It’s the first podcast I listen to on Monday mornings. I’m married, so not all the dating advice is applicable, but listening is like getting to chat with close girlfriends.
  • McKenzieFloyd
    Changed my views on dating
    Love this pod! Very relatable, very helpful. Feel like they have totally changed my views on dating (in a good way) and are helping me become a better version of myself in general.
  • NicoleA903
    Love this podcast
    I heard about this podcast from when Ali was a guest on Shooters Gotta Shoot and have since started listening to all current and past episodes. I also joined the Patreon recently because Ali and Roark give such good advice and I wanted to hear more of it. I love that their approach is always to communicate honestly with the person you’re dating, even if it seems like a difficult conversation to have. Ali’s text scripts have been particularly helpful in several dating situations. Grateful for the advice and appreciate you both sharing your personal dating stories! Makes me feel less alone in this complicated world of dating!
  • taliagia
    Empowering
    I love Ali & Roark. I just got back into dating and I find them to be hilarious and empowering. It’s great to get healthy advice that advises against game playing. I’m an anxiously attached person and it really helps me!
  • v2566
    Stilted dynamic
    I heard about this podcast through tik tok and after reading all the good reviews, I decided to check it out. I listened to about five recent episodes before writing this but I can’t say it’s my favourite love and relationship podcast. The hosts seem very cold and their dynamic is super stilted. Every time one of them tells a story about their dating life it feels like the other is not super engaged or is just offering canned responses until the story is over. Their dynamic is not much better with guests. Any time there is an interesting or organic sidetrack there’s an awkward announcement of “this is off topic!” and the conversation stalls. I don’t know if this is a practice thing or a personality thing but not my cup of tea!
  • snavearual
    Binged all the episodes in a month 😂
    I’m loving this podcast. I’m 47 and single again after being mostly single for the past 12 years. I’ve found the hosts to be refreshingly honest and real while also working on being their best selves in dating and life. The guests have been incredibly helpful as I’ve been healing from a recent breakup and working towards being ready to date again. I feel more confident and hopeful after binging all the episodes in the past month! 😬😁
  • Ld3688
    Great podcast !
    I love listening to this podcast and I just signed up for the patreon. I like hearing their dating stories and updates and the great guests. Keep up the great work.
  • C-C-C-.-.-.-,-
    Great guests, great insights
    I love this podcast and recommend it to all my friends irl. Great guests, really helpful, practical advice that you can take into your life as you navigate dating. I especially liked ep 61 on closure (Dr. Abby Medcalf is amazing!), and the episodes on attachment styles and love languages. Really enjoy the heavier topics too - like the anxiety episode (44) was actually extremely helpful. The grief episode gave me a lot of insights as my partner recently lost their father. Keep it up you guys!!
  • Julie Milise
    Great even if you’re not single!
    I love following this podcast and the hosts on IG — and I am happily married. First, I love following their dating/life updates. It feels like you’re chatting with good girlfriends. And the guests they have on the pod talk about relatable topics that will help anyone with their communication habits (with anyone, not just potential partners). Keep it up Ali and Roark!
  • AlohaChelle
    Obsessed with your podcast
    I just found your insightful and entertaining podcast last week. I started from the beginning and I’m at episode 17. I am already sad for when I get caught up and then I will have to wait each Monday for a new episode. Plus, I’ve shared your podcast with my best friend and now this podcast is something we both look forward to discussing with each other. We love how Ali and Roark complement each other! The ghosting episode in particular was hilarious and helpful!
  • Candance14
    Relatable and Wonderful!
    It’s fantastic to get actual, practical dating advice from people who are actively dating. It’s not just abstract constructs from someone who has been in a relationship for years. I enjoy hearing about their dating lives as well as deep dives into relevant topics. Plus, they are fun and funny so it’s entertaining and never preachy. So happy I found this at the perfect time!
  • Go Rutgers_Magz
    Lovable, Relatable, and Funny
    I stumbled across the Finding Mr. Height Instagram page and decided to check out the podcast. I’m so glad I did because it has made such a big impact in how I approach dating. I’ve listened to other podcasts, read books, and watched stories, but these two are so relatable and truly show how the dating scene looks these days. I appreciate how they keep the topic light but also provide insights and different ways to look into dating. Thank you both for making such a comforting, informative, and fun podcast!
  • AmyChanPingPong
    The hosts are amazing
    Love this podcast!!! Great guests and the hosts are fun and funny!
  • BrazMaTaz_86
    So relatable!!
    Just became a patron member! I’m 35 recently divorced from a partner of 12 years and as the great Ricky Bobby said, “I don’t know what to do with my hands!” These ladies validate my awkwardness when it comes to dating, it’s nice to know I’m not the only tall, mixed race, woman trying to navigate the minefield of dating in a big(ish) city!
  • Michigan Allie
    34 dating in the Midwest, but not alone.
    I finally I don’t feel alone in this crazy covid dating game. Thank you for being relatable and making me realize I am better at this then I sometimes feel.
  • Hilre
    Ali & Roark are delightful
    I truly look forward to Mondays because of this podcast!
  • youonlygingeronce
    Literally only the podcast I listen to
    I hadn’t listened to a podcast before. Well I tried but wasn’t into it. But when a friend recommended this one I thought I would give it a shot. As a thirtysomething female who has been on dating apps for many years, maybe even a decade at this point, it is refreshing to hear to emotionally intelligent women talk about the things that I experienced in my life. I was one of the only single friends and multiple friend groups I often don’t feel like I have anyone to turn to for advice or venting or even commiserating with. This podcast is not some thing I will thank you to and from work and when I make dinner at night. I’m so glad I have so many episodes ahead of me. Thank you 😘 for FMH!!
  • ittabitta
    Hosts are so relatable!
    This is my favorite dating podcast (and I do listen to a few)! I appreciate that both hosts are actively dating— following along on their experiences is so relatable and makes their advice super current and accurate. Definitely recommend!
  • Just another voice 💕✨
    Love this dating podcast!
    I just discovered the pod around October/November wish I discovered it sooner. I love that everything they talk about is relatable to my current dating experiences, the most recent anxiety part 1 and 2 episodes have truly helped me. However, I am a single parent in the dating world and would love to hear an episode on dating life as a single parent. Literally the only reason why I didn’t leave the 5th star. Nonetheless I have nothing but good things to say! Love all the prompts that’s given out too! Keep going queens!💖
  • erikaj82
    Thank you!
    In addition to just providing practical advice, this podcast has made me feel like part of a community that I desperately needed but didn’t have before. Before I found FMH, I felt alone in my experiences, and modern dating was confusing and overwhelming. I’ve learned - and laughed - so much listening to Ali and Roark.
  • Kmurphy4
    Love!
    Love this podcast so much! So relatable and genuine, I love the mix of personal dating updates and dating topics! As I go through my own dating experiences, this podcast is like a good friend to get advice from. Thank you Ali and Roark!
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